Bailee Madison's Best Advice for Dealing with Jerks
The 16-year-old star actress has wise words about self-love and lame guys.
Bailee Madison has been in the spotlight since she made her big-screen debut at the age of six in Bridge to Terabithia. Ten years later, she’s had the kind of career that would make someone double her age double over in jealousy. After runs on Wizards of Waverly Place and The Fosters, she currently stars in Good Witch, a series that basically re-imagines Sabrina, the Teenage Witch for 2016. But her magic isn’t confined to behind the cameras.
With the help of (what else?) social media, Bailee’s become an advocate for empowering girls. After an ex accused her of being a prude (pro͞od, noun: A person who is excessively concerned with propriety or modesty, especially in sexual matters), she took to Tumblr to defend not only herself, but every girl who’s ever been called such a loaded word. Prude, of course, is not your average put-down, and no one gets that better than Bailee. Here, she tells us how to deal with haters and why self-love is so important.
The person who called me a prude was the first relationship I’d ever been in. I honestly didn’t even know what that word meant; I had to look it up online. I made myself forget about it, but two weeks later, I was in Toronto shooting Good Witch and it came up in conversation again.
I realized that I’m not the only one who has felt this, or is feeling this, or will feel this. I was on set all night, and it was 2am when I finally got back to my hotel. I grabbed my computer and my mom looked at me like I was crazy. I said, "I just need to write this. Let me write." I wrote it, read over it, and the next day I posted it. I’ve been blessed with a platform.
When you’re four years old, and a boy says that you can’t throw better than us, it’s both an insult and a challenge. It makes you want to prove them wrong. The same goes for calling someone a prude. It’s OK to have morals. It’s OK to want to do something big or something small. We’re all teenagers. I feel like teenagers, and our society, rushes a lot. It’s OK to slow down.
Self-love is a daily challenge. I have days where I’m feeling good, and I have days when I’m not and I just want to stay in bed. Self-love is appreciating your good days, but still loving yourself during the bad. Each day, you wake up a new person. It’s a constant learning experience—you can’t be afraid to fall, and you can’t be afraid to stand back up.
The biggest thing that I’ve learned is to respect yourself enough to walk away from a relationship, a friendship, or any situation that isn’t making you better and happier and challenging you to be a great person. Another I've learned is that if you have two really good friends—and the rest of the school doesn’t want to talk to you—those two friends are all that matter at the end of the day. The people who are there for you are the ones who will continue to be by your side. Embrace the friends that you have, however few it may be. Remain loyal and honest. I tell any new person who comes into my life that loyalty and honesty are most important to me. Protect your heart.