Bailee Madison on Why Friendships Shouldn't Be Glamorized
Last month, Disney child star-turned-movie actress/film producer/dispenser of generally genius wisdom Bailee Madison shared incredibly smart advice with us about dealing with dudes who are terrible and learning to listen to your instincts. We still reference some of her quotes—like "self-love is appreciating your good days, but still loving yourself during the bad"—on the daily. Did we mention she's only 16?
With her TV show, Good Witch, returning for season two this week, we were psyched to steal a few more minutes with Bailee to talk about the power of female friends (she didn't use the word "squad" once and for that we are eternally grateful) and how she makes her own magic.
You’re insanely busy, between writing books and starring on TV shows and producing movies. How do you find time for friendships, and why is it such a priority for you?
It wasn’t until the last three years, around the time I did Trophy Wife, that it came together. For the first time in my life, I was solid in where I was as a person and where I was living and I had a consistent schedule. That’s when I was able to have my first sleepover—I literally had my first sleepover at 13. Now I’m so fortunate aside for a couple misses in friendships, which happens when you’re growing up. I’ve had a very solid amazing group of friends who are there for me, and we can go for days or weeks without talking and pick up the phone and it’s like no time’s passed.
I have friends who encourage me to be the best person I can be. My mom always says is that when you’re playing tennis, you always want to have an A-team player. You want to play with someone who makes you better and pushes you. That’s how my friends are. They push me. They don’t settle for anything less than their best. They have their own dreams and visions. It’s nice to have people you can look up to. It’s who you spend your time with that really crafts you as an individual.
Do you believe in quality over quantity when it comes to friends?
This is such an important time when it comes to establishing friends. You’re finding yourself, but you’re also trying to figure out who you want to surround yourself with. I’m really grateful to have good people in my life, and I think that’s really important for girls—and guys, too. At the end of the day, when you leave high school, not everybody’s going to come with you.
You don’t need all the groups to be on your side; you only need people who are truly going to make you better. It’s all about discovering who we want to be, who we want to surround ourselves with, and how that’s going to help us in the long run. I’ve learned to keep my inner circle with people who like me for me. It’s not glamorized. It’s just a simple friendship between people who care about each other. When you find that, it’s a very special thing.
How do you know when to be open, in terms of both friendship and social media?
I don’t know, to be honest. And I’m truthfully okay with that. When it comes to sharing on social media, I’m very much okay with it, because people are going to find out anyway, because I’d rather just say it. I’ve been given a voice, on some level. There are so many girls and there are so many guys, and no matter where you are in the world or what you’re going through, they’re simply feeling these same things.
Your character on Good Witch is described as having “intuitive charm,” which might be the best character description ever. How much do you depend on intuition in your day to day life?
It definitely comes down to going with your gut. But I rely on the people around me, and I rely on my family, my morals, and my faith. I know that I have a responsibility, and I know I have people watching. I love what I do, and I don’t want to do anything that could mess that up—not that I won’t ever, because we’re all humans and we all make mistakes. It’s part of growing up and it’s part of learning. I can’t live my life in fear, I’ve decided.
Get more of Bailee every Sunday on Good Witch on the Hallmark Channel (and every single day on Instagram).