How to Believe in Yourself When Nobody Else Does
How do you remain positive about your future in a world that continually reminds you why you "never" will? What tips for motivation do you have for those who are feeling a bit overwhelmed by the negative energy?
First, some bad news: the world is full of haters. Whether you’re Gigi Hadid, Taylor Swift, or even a totally non-famous teenager, people will *always* be there to remind you that you’re not doing [insert literally anything] right. But that doesn’t mean you have to crawl back into bed and hide from humanity just yet! The good news is that there are very real ways to not only move beyond this negative energy, but actually use it to motivate you.
Negativity can be hard to ignore, especially when it’s coming at you from every direction. And while it sounds cliché, thinking about all the stuff that's going right in your life is a great way to gain perspective. If you have a hard time coming up with things to be grateful for, or proud of yourself for, or satisfied with, ask your mom, your grandparents, or your best friend. Sometimes it’s tough to look at your own life and see things that are going right; those closest to you, on the other hand, will no doubt have a whole list of things.
Another way to stay positive is to set goals, and then accomplish them. Even if they're small! These baby achievements (coming up with an idea for your college essay) are building blocks for bigger ones (like, actually finishing the essay). Break up your goals into smaller to-do lists to make even the toughest thing seem doable.
This question couldn't have come at a better time for us, too. As we continue to build a business and make sure Clover Letter’s in the email inbox of every girl on the planet (hey, we can dream right?), we're constantly meeting people who don't get what we are about. Surprise: these people are very rarely teenage girls. We've been questioned about our mission, told that we will never be successful, and put down simply because we're women. It's times like these when it's so incredibly hard to be positive, but sometimes a little boost is all it takes to get back on track.
If you’re feeling down and need a quick pick me up, feel free to borrow some of our tricks. Go for a run. Buy a coloring book and get creative. Turn off your phone for at least two hours. Read a book. Do some yoga. Go on a hike. Play with a dog (any dog, tbh). Worst case, take a cue from this little girl and remind yourself that you’re strong, you're smart, and you work hard. You got this.
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