How to Deal When Your Friends Are Graduating Without You
All my friends are graduating and going away to college. I’m so excited for them! But I’m sooo sad for myself, because I’m stuck in school for another year (they’re older). What do I do?
Friends can pretty much single-handedly make school *not* miserable, so we feel for you. It’s not like you’re dealing with one best pal moving away; you’re dealing with all of them leaving at once. To make matters worse, they're all moving on to a shiny new thing called college, which everyone knows is exactly like high school...except for the freedom and newness and dorms and majors and fun. OK, so it’s nothing like high school. It’s awesome.
It can be tempting to want to crawl into a hole and feel sorry for yourself these next few months, but look at it this way: You’ve still got time with your friends before they head out. So make a list of everything you want to do together before they peace—a summer bucket list of sorts—and get started on planning epic road trips, concerts, DIY projects, hikes, and more. Unfortunately your friends are going away to college, whether you like it or not. So, you might as well make the last few months 100% epic.
An obvious but important reminder: You’ll make new friends! It may not feel like it right now, but you just will. There are almost certainly other juniors who are experiencing the exact same thing as you, and are all the sudden finding themselves virtually friendless. There’s also a weird thing that happens senior year of high school—people stop thinking so much about the ~now~ and start focusing on the future. When that happens, things like cliques and drama and fleeting friendships sort of fade into the background. This is your chance to get to know those people in your class who maybe you never really thought about as potential bffs in the years earlier—simply because you already had a group. It’s also an awesome time to spend with your family, because let’s be honest: your senior year is going to fly by and you’ll be prepping to leave before you know it.
And if you don’t make five new best friends all at once, so what? You’re going to be out of there soon. We’re not going to sugarcoat it; it might suck for a little bit. But you’ll get through it, and you’ll still have your friends—who will soon be at college—to lean on. Just because they’re gone for now doesn’t mean they’ve left forever.
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