Why Squads Are Overrated
Being in high school is a difficult thing. I’m not talking about the late nights spent doing homework or the early mornings getting tutoring, even though that is pretty hard. I’m talking about something even more important: Being yourself. When you're in high school, it often feels like the whole world's against you. The best way to make it out alive? Find true friend, maybe two, and hold on tight. You'll have her and she'll have you.
Don’t try to fit the mold that everyone else has conformed to. Be your own self and do things exactly the way you want. Hum your favorite song on your way to lunch. Read your favorite book when you have no one to sit with. Wear what you like even if it's "so last season." Hold out for authentic friendships. Don’t give into peer pressure even when your friends are trying to make you do something that everyone else is doing. Don’t let people criticize or ridicule you for what kind of music you love or how you like to wear your hair.
In my short three years of high school, I've realized that people change, and it's not always for the better. I met some girls when I was a freshman and I thought they were the coolest people in school. They all had the newest clothes and their parents didn’t really care what they did. I tried to buy some new clothes and act just like they did for a little while. Then I began to realize that who I was pretending to be was not who I was.
I stopped wearing the tank tops and shorts they wore, dug out my old clothes, and put my black jeans and band tees back on. When I was myself again, I found some really amazing people. I took an art class I was dying to take and I met a girl I'm still best friends with today. Being yourself is important to finding people who will be there for you through thick and thin, and that's the kind of friend you want to have as you navigate high school—and life.
You've heard the phrase, “quality over quantity," right? This applies to friends, too. It’s not about how many you have; it's about how good they are to you. Don’t be someone you’re not just to fit in. If you like who you are, others will too. Spend your time around people who support you and encourage you to be the best person you can be.
And if all else fails, remember that while these four years may feel like eternity, high school is just a small glimpse of who you are and of how much potential you have.
Just ask Romy and Michele.
By Laurie Lopez, 16