How to Conquer Ex-Best Friend Drama
Being an 18-year old is important, but it's also so stressful. You’re just becoming a quote-unquote "adult." Society tells you it’s time to "find yourself" and to grow as a Real Person. As we all know, that journey is not easy. It’s even harder if you don’t have Real Friends.
We’re living in a world where you’re judged on the clothes you wear, how much makeup you put on, and so many other surface-level things. Social media doesn’t make life easier, either. But perhaps the biggest problem of all is that you just don't know who your friends are.
Growing up, everybody was always telling me how to live my life; they told me what was wrong and what was right. But the world is changing and sometimes wrong doesn't mean wrong. Sometimes being differently is necessary—and hard.
When I first met my now ex-best friends in high school, I thought our friendship would last forever. We all had similar interests. Our dream was to become successful after we finished school, and we all shared the same views when it came to girly things like makeup, clothes, and rom-coms. During freshmen year, we were like sisters. Then everything changed.
These friends had always wanted to be popular and to have the power to rule the world school. Of course, their boyfriends had to be conceited football players. They acted like divas straight out of an early-aughts teen American movie. (I’m from Croatia.) Their desire for glory and fame literally destroyed our friendship.
Once, when I was talking with one of my ex-best friends about hooking up, she got mad and told me that I “just didn’t get it.” “Your prince on a white horse doesn't exist,” she said. It got worse. The next time we got into a huge fight, they wouldn’t even talk to me in person about it. The only communication we had was on Facebook. Knowing that, you can imagine what kind of people they were.
Eventually, I realized that these girls didn’t deserve my attention, time, or most of all, friendship. It wasn’t easy, but I learned a lot about humans. And I learned how to make new friends who would talk through things in person—not just on Messenger.
Since then, I've also learned that thinking different makes you special and that you have to embrace it. You have to discover yourself and listen to your feelings. You must believe in you. In a world full of fakers and wannabes, raise your voice and show the world who you truly are. There are people who will embrace your personality and accept you; those are the people you should surround yourself with.
By Andrea Pekić,18