Why I Think Teen Rebellion Is Overrated
You’ve seen movies where the teenagers hate their parents like Freaky Friday, right? Or some other classic teenage angst film? Well, my experience is nothing like that. I think my parents are awesome. Sure, sometimes I feel like being a typical teenager, stomping my feet, slamming my door, groaning, and then shouting “I hate you and I wish I was never born!” But, haven’t we all done something like that?
There's this idea that you *have* to hate your parents because that’s what’s socially acceptable in the movies, and that you’re only cool if you’re rebellious and angry. Going against your parents and storming off into the night seems cool, but I don’t think it’s that easy in real life. Coolness is something that’s inside yourself, and doesn’t correlate with your amount of teen angst.
I hang out with my parents all the time because they love to do interesting things—and they love to do them with me. I spend weekends surfing, going to art galleries, and seeking out the new coolest places...with people I actively enjoy.
Every evening when I come home from school, I look forward to talking to my parents. On TV, there’s always the cliche: “How was your day?” the parent asks, day after day. “Fine,” the teen says, annoyed, like usual. That’s not how it is for me.
My mom is the kind of mom who will listen to me perform the entire book of Jane Eyre...in a rap. The kind of mom who wants to know what my favorite makeup products are, instead of getting mad that I’m wearing makeup in the first place. The kind of mom who comes to school and makes bad jokes with my crush, and I wish I could fall through the seat of my chair.
Despite sometimes-embarrassing moments, I truly feel like she’s the best thing that has ever happened to me. Some of the best times I’ve had with my mom are also the simplest, like when we watched Ferris Bueller’s Day Off and just sat laughing and laughing under a blanket drinking hot chocolate on one of Los Angeles’s precious few rainy days.
Growing up in different places has given me the chance to love my parents even more. I’ve been lucky enough to visit cities around the world, and I know my parents will always be there with me.
If you’re lucky—and I am, for sure—your parents will be some of the best people to have at your side. Moms and dads have been around longer than we have, and if they say something’s true, then they’re probably not lying.
My advice: Love your parents and remind yourself that it’s not “cool” to dislike them.
By Josie Willems, 14